San Diego woman refuses to add her boyfriend of 2 years to the deed of a house she bought entirely by herself, 3 weeks after he moved in, and he threatens to move out

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• AITA for refusing to add my boyfriend to my house deed after his lease ended?

  
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• The timeline here is doing a lot of work. Two years of dating, three weeks of cohabitation, and suddenly there is a sit-down conversation about deed ownership. Not a long-term plan discussed gradually over time. A conversation. Three weeks in. Before he has even learned which light switch does what.

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• The logic that contributing to a mortgage means building equity sounds reasonable until you push on it for about ten seconds. Renters across the country have been paying toward landlords' mortgages for decades and nobody argues they deserve a cut of the building. The eighty thousand dollar down payment was saved entirely before this relationship existed. The five years of mortgage payments were made entirely alone. Three weeks of below-market contributions are not the same category of thing and everyone in this situation knows that.

   

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• The part that deserves the most attention is the engagement angle coming up mid-negotiation. If the relationship is serious enough to justify adding him to the deed, it should also be serious enough to survive her saying no. The fact that those two things got tied together this quickly is not a sign of someone thinking seriously about a future. It is a sign of someone who just moved in and is already working the leverage.

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• Her sister thinks two years is long enough to start building equity together. Her best friend thinks he is trying to get half her house for the cost of a few months of discounted rent. One of them is doing better math than the other.

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